January 31, Palo Alto, CA: Been reading more about committmentphobia. All the pieces sound so familiar. One of the key items is building distance (of any variety: physical, emotional, etc) into a relationship. Very familiar. And very easy to do. Real commitment has made me panic. But I really couldn't admit it. I couldn't even discuss it. It seems unlikely that someone who has seen so many of the same commitment struggles could be a good thing for me. But it definitely makes it much easier to have a dialog when old fears (which may never completely dissolve) resurface and the urge to panic begins to set in.
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