August 6, Palo Alto, CA: A friend over the past couple of weeks has shared her appreciation for some of the conversations we’ve had and the feedback I’ve given. She was able to work through some pretty tough issues along the way, and it makes me really happy that I was able to help. One thing she said was that she was discovering the things about herself that everyone else already knew. That got my attention. It reminded me of last fall, when I was telling people close to me, semi-jokingly, that I was the last person to realize how flawed I was. More accurately, I was the last to acknowledge it. And then she, having read my thoughts, suggested, like so many others, that I was being hard on myself. I think I agree, but I am not sure of the reasons why. I tend to believe that many people are their own worst critics. That doesn’t really make it right or ok. Hearing that I am hard on myself is familiar, but I don’t know that I had thought about what it looks like. But thinking about it last night, I saw that one thing that I do is more readily integrate negative feedback than positive feedback. I'm sure there is some technical psychologically-based term for this…maybe. Anyway, that is one area where I could really benefit from a little balance.
Excited for some east coasting this weekend.